For people unsure of many thing and rarely fans of absolutes, UUs are sure convinced of a few – the way the order of service should be laid out, how the chairs and tables “must be” arranged for coffee hour, and even the type of materials used for religious education classes can all be causes of debate and consternation.
For a people unconvinced that anything happens after we die, we are convinced that the font used on our name tags is part of the world’s problems.
For a people unsure what should be taught in the religious education program we do know there is a “right day” to start the RE program.
For a people unsure what to say to newcomers, we are sure that the people talking to them should use special coffee cups when talking to them.
I think our uncertainties about many things lends us to focus on minor attributes associated with them. It gives us a feeling of comfort to know that uncertain things are handled with certainty. We don’t know where the path leads but we know that we must take certain things with us on the journey.
Worse yet, at times, we fail to convince others of our certainties. And though we tout democracy, we are unable to comprehend and handle when we get outvoted. The cattiness that comes from these discussions is rather heated at times. Folks even get mad and leave the church over them. It is as if we have replaced dogma with catma.
We struggle to journey together when we realize others aren’t handed where we think we want to go.